HELP! My hair is badly damaged!!!

If you’re reading this, I take it you’ve done something to fry your hair.  Or maybe you just haven’t taken good enough care of your hair and the results is fried-looking hair, aka cotton candy hair. This is the epiphany of ruined hair. Some people don’t know how their hair got to such a state.    Not to worry, I will help you work through this.  It may take some time depending on how “fried” your hair is.

First things first.  How fried is your hair?  When you run your fingers through your wet hair is it breaking off?  Not shedding, but breaking off.  How much of it is breaking off?  Is it a disgusting amount or just a few pieces of hair?  If it’s disgusting amounts, I want to congratulate you, your hair is badly damaged, and the recommendation I have is to go to your favorite stylist (You do have one right?  That’s another topic!) and have them cut off as much of the damaged hair as possible.  At that point you will start over.   Just learn your lesson and fail forward.  You wanted a new temporary new look anyway!  Right?  Please don’t cry!  That breaks my heart!

If that is not  your problem, then when your hair is wet, does your does it feel abnormally soft?   If it does, it’s not a good sign, and it does not mean your hair is healthy.  It means its getting near to all breaking off!

Take a strand test.  Here’s how:  Take one strand of hair and pull it in opposite directions.  Is it stretching like a rubber band?  When you pull it until it snaps it does NOT curl?  If not, then it’s fried.  It should curl when it snaps.

So lets move on to the remedy.

1) Don’t bleach your hair.  This means, not by your nor a professional. Let’s get it in perfect condition before worrying about going lighter.

2) Use a shampoo that is sulphate free!  Sulphates break down the hair.  Never, ever use shampoos with sodium laurel sulphate (SLS)!  As a matter of fact, get rid of any product in your house with SLS!  It’s bad for your skin too (Skin is another topic I’ll write about!).  Products that don’t use SLS will typically state it, proudly on their packaging.  “SULPHATE FREE”  There are lots of them out there.  Pureology and Nevo by Pravana are two that I use, but there are many more out there.  And don’t wash your hair every day.  Think about the clothes you wash the most.  They wear down faster.  By the way, stop using detergents for your clothes with SLS too.  It’s also bad for the environment and breaks your clothes down quicker.
(A little side-note:  On the days you don’t wash your hair, use a brush to distribute your natural oils through your hair prior to going to bed.  Get rid of the cotton pillowcase and use a satin pillow case.  Cotton absorbs oils from your hair.)

3) Condition your hair with really good conditioners.  Don’t go cheap with your conditioners.  You want a conditioner that works on the inside of your hair, not just coats the hair.  Don’t go to the grocery store for a conditioner.  Just because it feels good when you’re using it doesn’t mean it’s working on the inside of your hair.  It’s just coating it, and with fried hair you need more than a coat of wax.  You need to repair it.  On that note, also pick up a leave in conditioner.  Use it everytime you wash your hair.

4) Go see your hair stylist for a signature conditioning treatment.  This is not a simple conditioner they use on everyone.  This would be a special treatment they use for getting damaged hair back to normal. Every situation is different, but these are what I use, depending on the the level or type damage and repair needed:


Keratin is one of the main ingredients of hair. When hair lacks elasticity and strength, Keratin can be added to repair damaged areas and rebuild internal structures. The Noiraudepro Keratin applications come in three different molecular weights to rebuild the various levels of the hair’s structure.


CMC is an oil based ingredient in the hair. When hair becomes weakened and dehydrated, it loses CMC which retains the moisture within the hair’s cortical layers. By adding CMC, dehydrated and distressed hair is then able to retain moisture and lock in the necessary Keratin.


Collagen is a protein which adds strength and support to skin cells. When applied to hair, it creates a veil on the cuticle’s surface which locks in moisture, adds softness and deters frizz.

Chitoaqua & Silk Peptide:

Silk proteins and aloe extract create an even veil of protection on the hair’s cuticle to add shine and resistance. These also protect the hair from daily stresses such as thermal styling, UV light and brush friction.


Super moisturizing ingredient for severely damaged hair.  Contains the ingredient Ceramid 2 to repair the CMC water pathways to retain moisture inside the hair

I know I’m probably going over your head (no pun intended) but I wanted to show you an example of why a good stylist is needed.  If you are going to a good stylist your hair shouldn’t even be in a fried condition.  Right?

5) During this repair time, how about coloring your hair a tad bit darker?  Ask your hair stylist about a gentle hair color approach that doesn’t use ammonia.

6) And finally, chill it with the heat tools!  Serious!  Your stylist can help you with a temporary style that will allow you to not use heat tools on a daily basis.  Or depending on the condition of your hair, maybe a retexturizing treatment.

I wish I could help every one of you out there!!!  I love seeing people with beautiful hair and beautiful skin, but mostly I love seeing you so happy with your appearance you smile from ear to ear.

And if you need some extra money in order to afford a good stylist, text or call me for information about a plan b (or maybe you need a plan a!)  I’d love to help you out with this too!

Hairs to you!
Gia xoxo